Recently couple of women have said to me "I don& #39;t need therapy cos I don& #39;t have issues. The person being abusive towards me is the one that has issues, they need therapy". Just to address the issue of who & #39;needs& #39; therapy

going for therapy is not a punishment for bad behaviour, for not being able to cope, it doesn& #39;t signify you are weak, or helpless, or & #39;need help& #39;. It doesn& #39;t make you less than another, weaker than another, & #39;the one with issues& #39;.

The purpose of a therapeutic relationship is when a therapeutic partner enters your framework and sees, perceives your point of view. Clarification of your feelings and thoughts is a key part of it. What do I feel? How did I come to feel this way? They help you set your own goals

Those could be material goals that you& #39;ve been unclear about or emotional and mental goals that you& #39;ve been uncertain of needing for yourself. This could be & #39;I would like to not feel so anxious all the time& #39; to & #39;I need to change my job& #39; and the obstacles you& #39;re finding to them

Above all a therapeutic relationship is healing for you. This doesnt mean you are & #39;damaged& #39;. It just means you& #39;ve been hurting and you& #39;re reaching out for some balm. Everybody ideally should go for therapy, like you service your car periodically, service your mind and feelings.