Recently couple of women have said to me "I don't need therapy cos I don't have issues. The person being abusive towards me is the one that has issues, they need therapy". Just to address the issue of who 'needs' therapy

going for therapy is not a punishment for bad behaviour, for not being able to cope, it doesn't signify you are weak, or helpless, or 'need help'. It doesn't make you less than another, weaker than another, 'the one with issues'.

The purpose of a therapeutic relationship is when a therapeutic partner enters your framework and sees, perceives your point of view. Clarification of your feelings and thoughts is a key part of it. What do I feel? How did I come to feel this way? They help you set your own goals

Those could be material goals that you've been unclear about or emotional and mental goals that you've been uncertain of needing for yourself. This could be 'I would like to not feel so anxious all the time' to 'I need to change my job' and the obstacles you're finding to them

Above all a therapeutic relationship is healing for you. This doesnt mean you are 'damaged'. It just means you've been hurting and you're reaching out for some balm. Everybody ideally should go for therapy, like you service your car periodically, service your mind and feelings.