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"12 Years a Husband: 12 Marriage Secrets That the Imams Won't Tell You"
Yes.
It's yet another Muslim marriage thread, this time, though, from someone who's been married for 12 years, telling you things you've probably never heard before.
"12 Years a Husband: 12 Marriage Secrets That the Imams Won't Tell You"
Yes.
It's yet another Muslim marriage thread, this time, though, from someone who's been married for 12 years, telling you things you've probably never heard before.
2/ One "secret" for every year of my marriage.
And, sorry ladies. These are male-centric lessons.
One: Boundaries are everything in *any* relationship. Know what yours are and enforce them ruthlessly through consequences.
And, sorry ladies. These are male-centric lessons.
One: Boundaries are everything in *any* relationship. Know what yours are and enforce them ruthlessly through consequences.
3/ The best consequence for a boundary violation that you can apply is a withdrawal of attention for a period of time.
Two: On that note, reward her with your attention when she tries to please you.
Three: Never tolerate disrespect.
Two: On that note, reward her with your attention when she tries to please you. Three: Never tolerate disrespect.
4/ Swiftly apply a consequence for this particular boundary violation. Nip it in the bud. Don't die a death by a thousand paper cuts.
Four: Be contrarian enough. Challenge your wife. She will appreciate you more. And that comes with perks. If you know what I mean. 
Four: Be contrarian enough. Challenge your wife. She will appreciate you more. And that comes with perks. If you know what I mean.
5/ Five: Your woman is going to screech regardless of what you do. It's better to be ahead of the curve and take control of her emotional roller coaster rather than let her emotional roller coaster control you. Create drama for the sake of it. Then, laugh it off after.
Five: Your woman is going to screech regardless of what you do. It's better to be ahead of the curve and take control of her emotional roller coaster rather than let her emotional roller coaster control you. Create drama for the sake of it. Then, laugh it off after.
6/ Six: Becoming emotionally flustered because of her screeching is really unattractive to her. It displays your weakness and that's what makes it unattractive. Never do this.
Six: Becoming emotionally flustered because of her screeching is really unattractive to her. It displays your weakness and that's what makes it unattractive. Never do this.
7/ Seven: On that note, dump the idea that general emotional vulnerability with her is an attractive thing. The only case where she will think your vulnerability is attractive is when she thinks you're strong. In her mind, she thinks: "He's only vulnerable with ME."
Seven: On that note, dump the idea that general emotional vulnerability with her is an attractive thing. The only case where she will think your vulnerability is attractive is when she thinks you're strong. In her mind, she thinks: "He's only vulnerable with ME."
8/ Yes, it's really about her. And, no. Strength does not mean beating her up or shouting at her.
Eight: Kids change everything. And yet, they don't. It becomes harder, but the principles are the same.
Eight: Kids change everything. And yet, they don't. It becomes harder, but the principles are the same.
9/ Nine: The health of the bedroom is reflective of the general health of the marriage. Ignore this at your own peril.
Ten: Always *behave* as though you have more options besides her. But *never* say this out loud. The first keeps her in check.
Nine: The health of the bedroom is reflective of the general health of the marriage. Ignore this at your own peril. Ten: Always *behave* as though you have more options besides her. But *never* say this out loud. The first keeps her in check.
10/ The second exposes you as weak.
Eleven: Lift weights. You will just have to take my word on this one.
Twelve: Don't be a loser. Be suave and charming.
BONUS: She doesn't want you to solver her problems. So don't.
Eleven: Lift weights. You will just have to take my word on this one. Twelve: Don't be a loser. Be suave and charming. BONUS: She doesn't want you to solver her problems. So don't.
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