Next month I will be a father so please give me your best father or parenting advice.

My own father is basically a desert hermit inexplicably born into the slums of Boston in the 1940s. My grandfather left (was kicked out) when he was 7

My dad spent much of his life running from poverty & when I was a kid he was still a workaholic, I "met" him when I was an adult

I like my dad! He's just not much to go on. Besides I'm the opposite: I like animals and kids and can't quite figure out how to converse with adults.

also he'd object and say sea-faring* hermit. What I mean to say is that he's a very solitary person.

once I turned like 16-18 my dad was like "FINALLY, lets go travel the world or something."

You know, on his side, I don't even know my grandfather's name. But I am named after my (Lebanese) grandmother, Mary Simon. She died shortly after I was born, so I never got to meet her.

I *think* that children actually want little jobs and responsibilities, and we intend to give them lots if they respond to it. I think children look forward to growing the courage to make meaningful decisions, and if we do our jobs well, accepting any responsibility that follows.