Personally, one of the reasons I get into relationships so infrequently is because I don't appreciate how scared people are about them. There's a very uncomfortable anxiety around finding a person & working out. So there's lots of tactic and I'm not into being studied like that.

I don't like being poked into and being asked a million questions on a first date for someone to decide whether I fit their idea of a long-term partner. We all go through things and change, and we can have a good thing today and it's impractical in 90 days, and that's fine.

I don't know much, but what I do know is that I don't like the pressure of ho ratana. You can't learn a whole person on a date or over a few weeks. Things come up as you go along and you have the choice to still be about that person or not.

The person you'll be in 5 years is probably not even who you imagine you will be in 5 years. But who are you today? What makes sense today? Long-term relationships change so much because people change and the relationship adjusts if it can, I think. So why le panicka?