This is a hill I will die on. If you're living in the US and you- leave the hundreds of thousands of Nigerian women here to - go to Nigeria to find a wife to marry, you want to establish a perpetual power dynamic in your relationship. You're seeking control not companionship.

By bringing someone from the poverty capital of the world to the US, you've provided them a quality of life they ordinarily wouldn't have been able to provide for themselves. In Nollywood terms "You picked them up from the gutter" and you have no plans of ever respecting them

Then there are the patterns. It's usually someone who came to the US under less than ideal circumstances. They marry someone, usually white for their papers, divorce them and decide to inflict the same pain and suffering on another woman

Nobody ever talks about the shame and humiliation they have to deal with while being married to an "independent American woman" for a green card & citizenship.

If you had to do this, you couldn't immigrate by virtue of your skills. You also don't have too many dating options. So here you are married to someone you don't like, who has all the power in the relationship because if they divorce you before the 3 year mark,

you have immigration issues. So you lay low, you take it all in while bidding your time. Also because you had to marry to stay, you're probably working multiple jobs so money is always tight.

Eventually you get your papers, you get a divorce and swear of all women in the US. You go back to Nigeria, get married, bring your new wife to the US and help her get into nursing school.

She starts working and making money and you keep treating her like someone you have power over. Some men go as far as demanding their wives salary

Eventually she starts becoming more familiar with her rights and starts becoming the independent non-submissive American woman you were running away from. At that point, all bets are off and too many women have been murdered once things get to this point.

There are way too many documented stories of men killing their wives who they brought from Nigeria because they felt the women were getting to big. The stories stretch back decades

Neither Nigerian culture nor the Nigerian constitution believes in or establishes women as having equal rights to men respectively. Heck Nigerian women who aren't in healthcare or agriculture cannot work overnight jobs without permission from the minister of Labour

It is not a stretch to say that the average Nigerian man is diametrically opposed to the notion of their wife being equal or having equal rights to them.

By definition, you cannot submit to an equal & the largest religions in Nigeria subscribe to submission, hence all the head and neck analogies. So a Nigerian woman exercising her constitutional rights in the US is a slap in the face of Nigerian culture, religion and constitution

This is textbook case of cutting your nose to spite your face. Instead of marrying an someone here in the US and increasing your household income, you choose to be poorer so you can have power over someone else.

The wife you're marrying will need a couple of years or a lot before she can start making significant contributions to the household income especially if she has to go to school first. It makes no sense whatsoever

Are there exceptions to this rule? Probably. Do they warrant a conversation, no they don't.