*sigh*

alright team.
let's chat.

so you know how this past weekend was The Worst Weekend Ever™ for streaming and gaming?

That was because there was a lot of exposure for abusers in the industry.

when we say 'abusers', we mean

-people guilty of SA
-people guilty of coercion flat out
-people guilty of straight up r*pe
-people who have been a sleaze using their status to force favors from women

what we DON'T mean is

-that ex that was bad at sex
-that ex that cheated on you
-that one time you consented consistently but recently decided 'nah I don't like them, actually'
-shaming people who owe you money
-that time you let a predatory roam but it isn't your fault

I want y'all to realize if you're posting stories and items with an explicit endgoal to absolve yourself of blame OR because you just want to watch someone you've had issues with squirm?

you're not ONLY an asshole, you're hurting the bigger movement.

don't misunderstand: your pain is real, and a lot of these people suck. truly.

But lumping in that one time you thought you liked a person, but didn't, with people who are LITERALLY GUILTY OF R*PE is not it. you are doing more harm than good.

that said: posting these stories knowing that this will likely end their careers/placement because you're still sad and you want to fit in?

tbh? It's manipulative as fuck.

Don't do it.

We already have an overwhelming number of problems that effectively immediately, we NEED to address in the industry.

Not to be a bitch, but aware that I am being one, your personal guilt about that one time you slept with someone and it was mediocre is NOT important.

Y'all can go unpack that.

Don't conflate it with the myriad of people who have a stranglehold on the progress and advancement of marginalized people, please. Many of us are hurting and this hurts on top of it.

Also: there are people who are trying to compile master lists of abusers and predators. When you toss in your story in the same formats amongst the same climate---->

you force them to waste time reading your story to realize 'oh, so you weren't abused/assaulted, you just don't like them because they cheated on you. That sucks...but infedility =!= abuse' and trust me, they are already TIRED.