i. really gotta add. that i am not actively stripping anybody of vocabulary here, i'm talking specifically about how this makes it easy for people to go "oh i could NEVER do that, how could you call me an ABUSER" while demonizing people who actually haven't done shit https://twitter.com/elliottdunstan/status/1275525674271465473

just, getting a few reactions (some of them subtweets) that are not really getting the point

you shouldn't be reading this re: your abusers who absolutely definitely hurt you in ways that you are sure or mostly sure about

you should be thinking about, what ways have i hurt people that could be labelled this way if somebody was annoyed or determined enough

and /what recourse would you have to fix the misunderstanding/

especially as a marginalized person

"oh they're lying, don't trust abusers" is like, fine, if you are DEAD. FUCKING. CERTAIN. that nobody is taking advantage of a situation.

"who cares, let them rot in jail" does not work with decriminalization and like, what if you fucked up?

you don't have to have immediate answers to this! these are hard conversations! but if you're going "no this is worthless bc i know my abusers are bad" you're sortaaaa missing the point

i got called a sexual harasser for existing as a "lesbian" in a female changeroom ffs

yes, your abusers are bad!

calling people pedophiles over fictional content is also bad! stating that somebody is abusive for a misunderstanding is also bad! making out like bpd and npd and aspd and hpd are inherently abusive disorders is also bad!

i have to examine every single callout i see because I genuinely do not trust people not to be trying to ruin somebody - usually trans people - over "they drew a bad thing" and that's the context that this thread is living in

that isn't a separate world from the MeToo movement