falling in love is cool bc each partner you encounter will bring out something different in you. at times, beautiful things. other times, not so beautiful things. i find it interesting how you think you know your full potential but it’s as simple as one person causing a ripple.

for example: i didn’t know i loved hiking until i dated someone who was obsessed with the outdoors.

it’s like now if that relationship ends, hiking will always be a part of you. that’s really cool.

“i didn’t think i was that good at makeup until i had a partner that loved how i did my makeup and tirelessly encouraged and supported my makeup artistry”

“i never took my health or fitness seriously until i dated a self taught physical trainer.”

like wow people have the ability to really touch our lives in such awesome ways. that’s beautiful.

i think while keeping this in mind. it may be another thing people should consider when dating/getting to know someone. shamelessly asking yourself how can i benefit from this union? what valuable life lessons can they teach me? what favorable qualities will they bring out of me.

i wonder if we made it a habit to keep our self-improvement at the forefront of our minds... if we would be more careful and critical of the partners we are actually choosing to let into our lives. this serves as an alternate method if recognizing red flags is a struggle for you.

like if you aren’t good at deciding if their behavior is bad or good. make a checklist of desirable traits you personally require in your partner & see if they even come remotely close to that. ex: kindness, emotion regulation, emotional awareness, accountability, thoughtfulness.

i wonder if people get restless or stagnant in their relationships because one of the two partners or both stop evolving entirely. like do the identities overlap & have they not allowed enough space between them to discover new parts of themselves so they can bring that home &

share with you like they did in the beginning. that’s why having friends outside of your partner is important. without social interaction/broadening horizons you will remain stagnant. youtube can serve as a social interaction simulator if you come across the right content.