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I know how to spot a predator. I've lived that life, I've been that victim, and half of the men on that list are not predators, not in my eyes. Tom, Shawn, Ed, Harry. I know I don't *know* them but there's nothing in their past or their day to day demeanour that suggests anything
"Oh you're simping for white men"
"Oh you're just defending your fave!"
No! I was a fan of Ansel, I was kind of coming around on Bieber but knowing what I know about their past made it very easy for me to conclude that yes, they are guilty.
Ansel all but admitted it in his post
"Oh you're just defending your fave!"
No! I was a fan of Ansel, I was kind of coming around on Bieber but knowing what I know about their past made it very easy for me to conclude that yes, they are guilty.
Ansel all but admitted it in his post
Predators are master manipulators but once you've seen through one, you can see through most. There is ALWAYS a trail. Rich, famous predators don't just assault one person one time and then that's it. There are always whispering and murmurs and that was the case with AE + JB.
There was a history there, a precedent. Famous predators can't silence everyone they hurt. People try and are often shut up and made to disappear. There is always SOMETHING. And away from accusors, predators give telltale signs of their true nature and aren't even aware of it.
Ansel saying he's normal until they get back to the bedroom and then he gets intimidating. Justin's comments on rape and women's bodily autonomy in the past. It's all there like some sick jigsaw. None of the men listed in the E-mail chain have displayed any of this behaviour or-
Had any whisperings of anything. Shawn, Tom, Harry and Ed have been famous young men with leigons of female fans for anywhere between 6 and 12 years. And never, not once, has there been any suggestion of them taking advantage of that. Unless I'm missing something....
I hate saying this and I know I'm going to get some blow back but you learn to spot signs as you recover from and work through your own trauma.
And hopefully other survivors can back me up on this but there are people you learn to look and you just know. You become an expert on analyzing who is safe and who is not. I don't know these guys anymore than I know some random person walking down the street.
Yet, I can usually tell even with strangers very quickly whether they're someone I can trust or not. I may never have met any of these famous young men in the flesh but I've seen enough content of them, more than the stranger in the street, to gage their character.
The random person on the street doesn't have half a decade's worth of personal appearances in the public domain. The random person doesn't have indepth interviews where they reveal a lot about themselves.
It's more than enough to establish whether someone gives you a bad vibe or not. Drake has never sat right with me. Kevin Spacey never sat right with me. TBH, I wanted to give Bieber a chance more than I knew I should. These me gave off a vibe that I, a survivor, picked up on.
And I was proved right.
I'm not saying that I'm the authority on this by any means whatsoever but there's a certain perspective and isnight surviving a predator can give you, a red alarm so to speak, and mine doesn't sound for any of those men.
Maybe it does for you.
I'm not saying that I'm the authority on this by any means whatsoever but there's a certain perspective and isnight surviving a predator can give you, a red alarm so to speak, and mine doesn't sound for any of those men.
Maybe it does for you.
As always, I can only speak as I find.
