Watching people who support Jongdae yell for normalization of his status as a married man who has a kid while at the same time trying to stop every fandom mention of his personal life somehow makes no sense to me. It's either one or the other.

We can't make it a normal subject when we don't talk about it. I get it that JD is a very private person and a lot of what people want to do by not talking about his life is due to the fact that we respect him but also jumping every person who calls him a husband or dad isn't it.

"Normalize idols in relationships!!!" but when our idol is in one you won't allow people to talk about it or even mention it. And to add to that: that ABSOLUTELY doesn't mean that people should speculate about his personal life or the life/identity of his family.

This has been bothering me for a while and I'm absolutely open to listen to what other people think about this, because I'm just a fan like everyone else and this is just my own personal opinion.

Let me add just one thing: measuring if someone is "worthy" of talking about an idol going by the number of previous tweets they made about that idol is absurd to me. You can support and like someone and never tweet about them because guess what? Twitter feed isn't a personality.

Measuring support have been one of my main fandom pet peeves for a long time. When antis claim they have "rights" because they pais for EXO content we rightfully clown them and yet people who "support" (whatever that means) are allowed to decide what can be said and by whom?

One quick thing: if you're bothered about people focusing on his life/family I personally think promoting his music is a far more effective way to deal with it than trying to suppress every mention of his marriage/fatherhood, even the harmless ones.