I’m trying really hard to listen to ppl who do not have opinions like mine (I.e rape apologists) bc if we just “cancel” people we can’t educate them. When I was younger I’d be lying if I said I would believe a woman over a man for everything (not in cases like SA etc. )

...and that’s bc of internalised misogyny.
Way too often we see ourselves being gaslighted by rapists when we are friends with both the rapist and the victim. I think the best way to break out of the cycle of rapist sympathy (even if you still believe the victim but just feel...

... guilty) really is to look at yourself with a critical eye, and check your internalised misogyny.
Internalised misogyny is MAN MADE to keep women bringing each other down, and if we keep doing this then we can never reach our true potential.
As a victim of SA, it’s traumatic.

And I am so lucky that all my friends believed me, and maybe that’s because I had more “evidence” than most.
A lack of evidence does not always equate to an absence of guilt, just saying.

To end this thread, pls order “Women Don’t Owe You Pretty” by Florence Given!! It really changed the game for me and my friends in terms of accepting ourselves, and learning more about intersectional feminist culture.