How my dad reacted to me being sexually fluid.

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The early years of my life were glorious. My dad would wake me up with a kiss to prepare for school, mom getting my lunch ready and my water basin with warm water to bathe. I remember the fights we would have with Mama in those mornings because I wouldn't want to get out of the..

...basin, my dad would just give me the look & I knew it was time. He would leave for work before us; kiss my mom on the forehead & shout "Uyanithanda uTata makwedini" & would go to work. Mom would finish getting me ready, I would leave & he would get my young brother ready for

..creche. I'm the oldest. Anyways, knowing Daddy had gone to work was a happy for us because he would ALWAYS come back with tasty treats. Loved him for this. I would always check the corner of the street for him cause I loved running to him & pick his work bag & plastics.

This meant I get first preference in everything in those bags ...including the person who he will s give his leftover supper later than night. It was a beautiful upbringing filled with love and laughter. Fast forward to when I finally realized that I liked boys more than girls

For some reason he always knew. I know this for sure because I NEVER came out to him. Same as my mom really. So, one day we were just chilling. I remember it very well. It was on a Saturday & had made him tea elahlobo ayithanda ngayo (the way he likes it). This was the trigger

He asked me "ngoku xa ucinga uzokubanaye umfazi?". I laughed. I think this is where he knew. He continued to say "ndikubuza because ndiyakubona indlela ofeketha ngayo xa udlala namakhwenkwe. Amehlo akho abane sparkle". I knew it was time. I told him "andiwathandi amantombi mna"

He didnt even look surprised or anything for that matter. He just said "oh okay. Ngoku wena ufuna ukutshata nenye ikwekwe?" I said "Ewe tata ". This is when he asked me the defining question of am I top or bottom . The question didnt surprise me, but the way he said it, yho

He took a sip of his tea and asked me "So, kulento yakho yojola namajita nguwe obethayo okanye uyabethwa ntwana?" The most awkwardness filled the room because I didnt know how to answer this . Also I was afraid of the questions that would follow when I answer him.

"Yho Tata lombuzo ". He looked at me & said "hayi, sukoyika. Thetha. Ungowuphi wena?" I told him I'm top. I could feel him breath a sigh of relief after I told him this until he asked me "Injani lento yenu? Uva ntoni lento imnandi kuwe mntanam?" At this point I was convinced...

That he wants me to die of embarrassment cause how do I answer this to my DAD? How do I even explain the experience? Do I leave some details? do I tell him everything? Fuqq it. I decided to tell him everything. This could be my only chance to put him at ease & have him trust me..

So I explained to him an experience I had with a guy friend of mine that time. I'm not gonna go into details here because you guys are gonna judge me for having pornstar tendencies at a young age ...mara ndamrabisha umntanabantu shame, undicapukela nangoku.

I was so graphic about it. I told him about how we passionately kissed, how he went down on me & sucked my dick. I even told him about the first few strokes & how good they felt. The whole entire time he was listening ATTENTIVELY & I knew I caught his attention until he asked..

"Niyisebenzisile iCondom Anele? Zininzi izifo phandl'apha." We didnt use a condom & I had to be honest with him. The lecture I got, yho ha.a. I know it came from a place of love dou. He made me promise him that I will be careful the next time & that I would ALWAYS use a condom.

I swear this is one of the best talks we had. I felt his love, the kindness in his voice. It was overwhelming as this is a man of little words. His last words were "hai ke. As long as wonwabile mntanam mna ndizohlala ndikuthanda. Ungunyana wam wena" & he gave me a hug. I wept in

..his arms. He held on to me. I felt so safe & I guess this is why I'm so confident about who I am & my sexuality. I'm really grateful to have a Dad like him.

I'm glad this made you guys smile. Sending you guys love & hugs

Love, Andile