Fuck it. Burn this shit down. I'm gonna name some damn names.

@ RobertoSAGuedes harassed me. He emailed me an apology years ago, but clearly he didn't mean it, because I'm hearing about him harassing my friends the literal exact same way. https://twitter.com/Kathy_E_J/status/1275286641410621441

This fuckwad has apparently invoked my name to women I know in order to get closer to them, so I'm about to be crystal fucking clear.

This man has a history of badgering women online with overly familiar messages, and being toxic when they set boundaries.

Roberto started following me shortly after my Jezebel piece on G*merg*te went live. He was generally supportive, so I didn't mind. Later, he friended me on facebook. I saw he was friends with two industry mentors of mine. Ones I deeply trusted and knew personally.

So I added him. And that's when it all went to shit.

I don't have screens anymore. This shit is *old*. Like, 5+ years old. But his usual MO was to constantly tell me 'good morning' and 'good night'. A ritual I didn't even have with my partner in an LDR.

He kept sending me messages that to me were some big fat virtue signaling. Showing off the LGBT charities he donated to, expressing disgust in conversion camps. I didn't bring up anything. He just volunteered this.

Anytime I vaguely mentioned I was not having a great, perfect day, he would get overly familiar. constantly speaking with honeyed words. Super like, motivational poster, you can do it, treat yourself, you deserve the world.

Again. I have not bonded with him at all.

And then, it started to get to manipulative, creepy, grooming things.

He told me how he followed my work "Before it was cool". As if I had this massive following ( I didn't) that he could prove himself against as an AUTHENTIC FAN of my work (which I do not care about)

It frustrated me. It felt so clear, after a few weeks, that he *decided* was going to become his best friend and like him, and I had no say in the matter. He was messaging me more than THE MAN I HAD BEEN DATING FOR A YEAR AND A HALF.

When I finally put my foot down and told him how all his constant messages and *hugs* and stuff made me uncomfortable, he said it wasn't his fault. he was just like that.

I told him that didn't matter. that it made me uncomfortable.

He told me (and I'm paraphrasing here, because I don't have screenshots because this happened like 5+ years ago) that I've gone an upset him, and that I won't like that. That I won't like him angry.

I blocked him everywhere.

I hoped it was genuine. I hoped that he had learned and improved himself, and moved on. I didn't want to talk to him again. I had no reason to trust him. But I was okay to stay in the same circles as him, to tolerate him, if he had really become better.

But now I'm talking to friends, who reached out after my last twitter thread, and they're showing me screenshots of him doing the SAME EXACT SHIT HE DID TO ME. RIGHT NOW.

So if he wanted me to be civil and respect his ability to stay in the industry, he should have fucking learned like his apology said he did.

I'm not here to play around. Ban Roberto from games. He preys on women.

He sent me a last email being like "wow I don't know what I did wrong but I'll respect your wishes I guess" and I wrote him off.

Years later, he emailed me with this apology