Let’s talk about sex.

Like intellectually bc it’s just been running through my mind all day today.

Men really don’t have sex for pleasure. Like it’s really an ego thing to them and it’s sad.

Like everyone is FUCKING, but no one is having SEX!

It’s all penetration and “pound this (p/b)ussy”, “top me”, “beat on me”, “yeah take this dick”, and “s(p/h)it on me” type of dirty talk.

But where is the TOUCHING and the PLEASURE?!?

Men like to degrade and be degraded in sex because sex is a metaphor for their power and their shame. Not quite pleasure.

And men say a lot with the shit they don’t say.

Maybe my opinion is vanilla, but is vanilla really that bad when you focus on the pleasure aspect of sex rather than the extremely common power and shame dichotomy?

Sorry to kinkshame, but don’t those things usually come from deep seated underlying (shameful, basically) problems?

Oh.

Maybe you can tell by my views, but I have a Libra Mars Rx and Cancer Venus (not to mention my obvious Taurus sun and Aquarius rising).

Idk tbh but it’s probably the main reason I just don’t have sex. Like it’s so easy and cheap to relieve an erection, but it’s not worth as much as feeling more than just a small moment of pleasure.

If you or your partner(s) feel bad after having sex, maybe you should...idk look into that or whatever.