How come when someone is gay they’re homosexual or when someone is straight they’re heterosexual or someone is bi they’re bisexual and each term just implies the romantic part? Why don’t people say they’re heteroromantic or homoromantic or biromantic and that be the default?

I feel like this question just sounds weird but I’m genuinely curious why the sexual side of an identity is the most common way to refer to your identity as a whole? Like I’m heteroromantic and asexual, so why do I only use the asexual part when someone asks me how I identify?

Why don’t we normalize saying both our romantic and sexual orientations? This might just be because I’m ace but I feel like the sexual part of your orientation shouldn’t be the default way to talk about yourself.

Relationships are more than just sex, and I feel like identity should reflect that? Maybe that’s just me though.

Ok, so I wanted to add an update to this thread because I wrote it when I was exhausted out of my mind and a lovely friend messaged me some resources about why the split attraction model can actually be harmful, especially to those not on the ace/aro spectrum and young lgbtq ppl

I’m going to do some further research about it after work when I have a bit more time