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"Believing victims" means also believing them when your friends are the abusers, thank you bye.
Every single time I have talked about an abusive person, our common friends have been defending them like "this specific case is not the same they have their own difficulties i can explain" and like. Maybe think long and hard if you ever want to say this.
Every. Single. Time.
Every. Single. Time.
Also the entire re-framing of abusers as "just a nice person who made mistakes" and victims as "they're exaggerating" is a well-known Classic but STILL happens all the time. From people who KNOW it's a classic.
And that's precisely how people's think they aren't doing this: they never for a second consider their friend as an abuser and the person who came forward as a victim.
