rant:
i get really irritated when people confuse my choices with obligations. i do things because i want to. i consider what i want to. i used to think i had to do things for other people. i used to highly consider others and it stemmed from my own attachment issues

i used to constantly respond because i was so worried about making someone else feel some type of way. in reality, i was treating them the way i wanted to be treated because i had attachment issues.

my subconscious felt entitled to a response in a certain time frame without realizing it’s their choice, not their obligation.
i thought i HAD to do things for others when in reality, i didn’t.

unless they are clear, speak up and say whatsup, i can’t anticipate or take responsibilities for someone’s emotions. i won’t know how you feel unless you say it and i’m not anticipating it. this is why i ask if people have various wounds so i can make sure i know.

people’s choices are their choices and those choices reflect THEM, not you.
but when you’re codependent and struggle with attachment, you think people’s choices reflect you/your relation ONLY BECAUSE you’ve made your choices reflect and based off them and what they’re doing.