someone please inform me on how somebody who is being sexually assaulted is supposed to provide evidence... genuinely how.... it’s their word against somebody else’s and who the fuck is going to openly admit that they abused somebody?

the way they assault people in most cases, including mine, is through forming a trusting relationship. an outlooker looking in will see it as 2 friends, not an abuser and a victim. The abuser has a lot of friends and usually are quite charming, so why would anybody believe them?

saying “go to the police not twitter” ?????? i went to the police / authority and what happened ???? nothing. it’s so much easier to admit anonymously than go through the jarring and exhausting process with the police and to then not have any outcome.

put it simply. the abuser is usually very well liked, charming, trusted, a complete fake persona. the victim may have a friendship / relationship with them. one word against another and the abuser is going to be favoured by people who ‘know them’ which has been proven a LOT today

yes fake accusations are a thing, yes they are damaging. but to ask somebody who is a victim to something so personal and traumatising to ‘provide proof’ each time completely undermines their feelings and can be interpreted as being an apologist on the abusers behalf

if your mates on the list, if it is a fake accusation then the truth will come out. deal with it personally, not generalising everybody who has come forward. The whole point of this thread is to encourage other people with the same experience with the same person to come forward