Here's what some of you don't get. Women are taught from a young age that men are scary. So when a woman says no to a sexual advance, she's going to be polite usually. Because she's scared. Because at that point her agency is what is between you and what you want. 1/?

And she does not want to upset you. Because upsetting you could cost her feeling of security, her very sense of identity, her agency, her career, her hobby, her social circle, her health, and even her life. She can't anger you. Because if she does, she could lose everything. 2/?

You aren't inherently safe. You have to show her she's safe. And you do that by accepting anything less than a resounding "yes" as a no. You talk. You control your disappointment/anger/frustration/etc. And be a decent human being. You check in. Even if you think 3/?

everything is fine. You assure her the reigns are in her hand. If she wants to stop, you will stop immediately. And fucking do that. These were lessons you should have been taught, but the onus is put on women to treat men like predators rather than educating men. 4/4

Feel like I need to add here, you are probably not the first one she's been through this with so some of her behavior may be learned through experience and not just what she was taught.