Y’all really need to understand that when y’all say “all relationships w/ power imbalances are bad,” I’m going to side-eye as a disabled person

Every relationship I’m in w/ another consenting adult thst happens to be non-disabled, there’s a power imbalance. That’s most of my relationships right there.

Power imbalances aren’t as easy as “don’t be in relationships where one exists” b/c we live in the real world where this shit is common. We learn to work around them, or we stay single.

Power imbalances are bad. But intersectionality means that we all have them on multiple axis in every interpersonal relationship we’re part of.

Example: My cishet white able-bodied husband would appear to have all the power over me, except he has a green card & im a US citizen, so power imbalances goes both ways. Should we just never be together or..?

Disabled adults can consent to love & sex. Adults w/ less power in a relationship can SOMETIMES still consent. Nuance is kind of critical here.

It’s making me super uncomfortable to see characteristics like “lack of intelligence” be used to infantilize disabled adults & essentially remove their right to consent to positive relationships. You’re not rectifying an imbalance, you’re removing the right of personal choice.

Anyhow. Y’all creeping me out. Stop it already.