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really want society to reach a point where it actually helps men who have been in abusive situations and lets them heal properly instead of pretending men cant be abused or they went through that bc they werent "man enough"
the fuck does that even mean
the fuck does that even mean
i think a lot about all the times ive seen people laughing at videos of guys being abused because heehee look at this guy getting hit repeatedly in the corner by this girl or stories about guys who have been in emotionally manipulative relationships so funnee
no, it's not funny.
no, it's not funny.
whether a man, a woman, or anyone outside or somewhere in between the binary is being abused is never funny and is always serious and needs to be addressed. and for gods sakes teach men its ok to have and express emotions. thats another part of the issue
i dont understand how this world could have created such horrendous stereotypes and social 'norms' like men dont cry men are dominant always men are above women
no no no no no???????
no no no no no???????
shit like men cant be abused and if they are they deserve it
no... no??? why do you even want anyone to be abused what is wrong with you
maybe look into that first . . .
no... no??? why do you even want anyone to be abused what is wrong with you
maybe look into that first . . .
even as a transman ive been through this but people want to demonize you immediately if you ID as male. It's truly wild. It doesnt make the manipulation I went through with my ex any less traumatizing and real just because i identify as a guy???
and do you know what they did when all was said and done and I left? tried to use that very mindset against me, tried to destroy my friendships, and succeeded with the people who were closer to them, but honestly i lost nothing there.
they were verbally abusive, physically
they were verbally abusive, physically
abusive, mentally abusive, got their family in on it to gang up on me, threatened me with suicide if i left on multiple occasions, slammed doors, stomped around, kicked things in my room, copped an attitude about me hanging out with my friends and would
turn around and ignore every invitation I gave to come and be part of the fun we were having. I wanted to be inclusive, I wanted to get along, I just wanted everyone to get along. They kept me away from their new friends, would accuse me of cheating then be secretive about
what they were doing with others, would look at me with hatred, would try to force me with the help of their mother to make them the priority above all else in my life, would yell at me, would ignore me, and then drag me right back in acting as though they would stop.
but all of that must somehow be my fault because i identify as a guy. yeah. alright. and when i reached breaking points in situations where they out numbered and cornered me on purpose, it had to be my fault. I drove them to that. i could go ON and on.
There are things i have never told anyone that transpired in that household. And at the end of it all they tried to steal my money and leave me stranded at the airport. I wanted to leave as peacefully as possible. I even told them when I got my life together with a good job and
maybe my own place, I wanted to help them leave a house that really want good for them either. Even that wasnt enough for them.
I dare you to tell me i caused someone to behave like that toward me. I really dare you.
I dare you to tell me i caused someone to behave like that toward me. I really dare you.
It's taken me years upon years to become social again. It's taken me years of diving so hard into work and getting to a point where I made good on my promise to put myself in a stable position to even try to begin to heal, and frankly I dont think I ever will heal.
And i resent every single day that I see people pretend that anyone who identifies as a man doesnt go through it too. I empathize with abused women a lot more than you can imagine. I'm only lucky to say it was never sexual.
I will not sit here and claim that this hasnt instilled flaws into me. I shut down very easily now. I tend to disengage completely or overexplain in a fit of panic if things go awry. my walls go back up tenfold. I've been called an abuser for having a panic attack
Ive been called an abuser for running away from a situation to give myself space to gather my thoughts. Ive been called an abuser for being pushed into a corner until the only response I have is to cry and babble incoherently until i give up and say fine youre correct im bad
ive been made to believe that i was the abuser by my abuser and it still haunts me to this day. i keep questioning everything i do and say and feel and ive been gaslit to hell and back. im exhausted. i just want people to stop
Its taken a lot for me to even realize just how bad my situation really even was and I feel like an idiot all the time for not seeing it sooner. They made me act like someone who I was not just to please them and when it started to backfire they did everything they could to
restrain me again. This happens to Men. This happens to Women, This happens to everyone who doesn't identify as either of those things. Stop acting like when a masculine person comes out saying they were abused by their ex, they're just some horrible manipulative person.
Its not always about fragile masculinity and guys just wanting to absolve themselves of responsibility. Its not my fault I was treated like this. Stop.
