I remember being surprised when I learned medieval knights sealed oaths by kissing on the lips, were obsessed with flowers and perfume and would openly weep at the slightest provocation.

The 'masculinity' we have today is largely Victorian in origin and I think it's -

- crap. In the 1890s some Victorian sailors refused to use forks because they were feminine. 1700s male fashion slimmed the shoulders and accentuated the lower torso, subverting the modern 'superman' model of manliness. Society really is a construct, live how you want -

- and don't give in to pressure

My sources:

Medieval crying: https://www.historyextra.com/period/medieval/heavenly-dew-crying-in-the-middle-ages/
Manly Forks: https://www.rmg.co.uk/discover/behind-the-scenes/blog/history-fork
Medieval Perfume: https://www.medievalists.net/2013/03/making-good-scents-fragrance-in-the-middle-ages-and-renaissance/
Medieval Kissing: https://www.jstor.org/stable/204609?seq=1