I was beyond triggered today. Fianceé and I had a spat and she started yelling... Immediate survival instincts kicked in from childhood.

I am documenting this because this is how serious triggers are. It& #39;s not about being offended or grossed out.w

When the yelling concluded I went into survival mode:
-Short, shallow breaths from the mouth. Nose is too whistle-y.
-Imagining my body is made of stone, so I don& #39;t move.
-Let the tears fall but don& #39;t vocalize my hurt.
-Dissociate, "leaving my body"

We worked things out after she apologized for yelling. We are safe 100%. Yelling is just a trigger that puts us in serious lock down mode. Yelling is something that happens sometimes, but it is so triggering that we feel like we& #39;re going to die.

This is why we get upset about non-traumatized folks using "triggered" so casually. Facing triggers is PAINFUL. Facing triggers is RE-TRAUMATIZING. Triggers are serious. Please don& #39;t trivialize them...