When picking your bridal party you really gotta know who willing to do and pay whatever and who ain’t , if that’s what you’re asking. Bc being in a wedding party is so much more than just standing there and being cute on wedding day.

You gotta factor in who really has or is willing to give their time, energy, money. I know it’s about the bride but making sure your party is full of ppl who can give those things takes stress off of you.

It’s just so much to being in a wedding party. Things you don’t even expect when agreeing to it. It’s all fun and games until the bride wants you to do something and now you got an attitude

And again, I know it’s about the bride, but I think brides gotta do some real deal reflections on who they know gonna put up with their shenanigans with a smile and who will harbor resentment after the wedding is over. I know. I’ve seen it multiple times big beef occurs lol

And as a bridesmaid you also gotta reflect on if you have all that to give and if you’re willing to do what’s needed of you. And I think it’s okay if it’s not, for whatever reason. And if you and the bride are true friends, she should understand. Trust me. Less stress on both ppl

You want ppl who mean something to you to be by your side. But you also gotta take those peoples lives into consideration. Be real with yourself. If you know them, then you know. Lol

Maybe they can’t give what you need and are going to be guests and that’s okay. being a witness to your friend/cousin/whoever marrying the person they love still feels special. You still got to be there to support them. The love is still felt.

Any way lol I say all that to say just think before you ask someone to be a BM or accept the offer to be one. Forreal.