A lot of trans people avoid transphobia or just deal with longterm feelings of dysphoria by not going outside, something I don't think is talked about enough. Discouragement from public life is an effect of discrimination that is hidden because it is not open bigotry.

When I say trans people don't talk about "not going outside" enough, I don't mean we need to talk about feeling bad more. I mean that for many of us, bedriddenness, depression, executive dysfunction are results of lack of medical care, taught self-hatred, being everyone's joke.

Even when you realize it, it's hard to believe your (sometimes lifelong) failure, or just being trans in general, is not "your fault." But you feel like you've become a liability to everyone, because you have. This shit hurts real bad

I'm happy this post vibes with other trans people, you're the only ones who make me feel sane. I'm probably dropping grad school sometime this school year bc of a bunch of lifelong trans-related issues like this, so I felt it strongly & am glad my trans sibs are here for comfort.

Finally, for trans people who vibe it worse than I do now, are absolute shut-ins, agoraphobes, bedridden, closer to me as a teen: this thread also has uplifting replies. Transitional care, new community, & motion in your life can make, has made, literal worlds of difference.