lrt: what i was doing with tie jimin's character. i wanted to rly show how much he's fighting to be perceived as more than just someone to be sexually objectified

that's why i deliberately included the part where he talks abt how much he actually hates giving bjs and all this time, guys actually assume he's into giving oral because of his lips

also how he gets soft, fuzzy and almost subby during sex and men in the past including brett, have just fuckin taken that side of him during sex, and made some very quick assumptions of him as hypersexual because he is feminine

but actually half the time, he doesn't even want sex, he just wants to be kissed, touched, praised and be paid attention to. so important to ask and treat feminine people with care and not just assume shit abt their libido

i guess my last thought abt this is that just because someone gets really soft and pliant during a physically intimate moment of kissing or makeout with heavy fondling, it doesn't mean that they are up for anything more

a lot of feminine people have been socialized to, y'know, not say anything and just go along with sexual stuff as it transpires so if ur with someone who's very feminine and struggling to vocalize what they want, it's important to make them feel safe to voice their hard stops.