Read on Twitter
My new boyfriend’s friends found my Twitter the other day and decided to do a deep dive, taking screenshots of all my tweets that prove, according to them, that I’m racist, misogynistic, and transphobic. I’m sure you can guess their political leanings. 1/
They said they refuse to ever be in the same room with me again, much less discuss the differences of opinion, and demanded in many walls of text that he break up with & completely disavow me. His refusal to do so implicated his own character, tarnishing him by association. 2/
These are not people he met recently – they’re his best friends. It’s one thing to have your friends not much care for a new romantic partner. It’s quite another to have them team up & berate you for over an hour (by text message, of course) for having chosen a heretic. 3/
I met both of these people before the inquisition, and we got along quite well. I even made dinner twice for one of them, and shockingly didn& #39;t have any issue with her being a woman! But seriously, let& #39;s review why I& #39;m apparently the spawn of Satan & Hitler, shall we? 4/
This was the example given allegedly showing racism. I said that Floyd’s image was being used by a media so desperate for views & clicks they don’t care about the actual person behind the image or what they really thought – speaking for a dead man who can’t correct them. 5/
Apparently, what I *really* did was make light of public lynching. Yes, that& #39;s right. Never mind that one doesn& #39;t usually exhume a body to perform such an act, that& #39;s *clearly* what I meant with no other possible room for interpretation. Case closed!
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No no, it couldn& #39;t be that I was saying that Floyd is the latest in a long line of dead people to be propped up by the media to spew things they& #39;d never have agreed to in life. Because I said that& #39;s just as gross as displaying the poor man& #39;s body publicly, I& #39;m racist to them. 7/
Now, for the alleged misogyny. Evidently, my not believing that catcalling = oppression means I was ridiculing women’s suffering AND saying catcalling is a great thing to do! Similarly, stating that assault, while bad, is not murder is ridiculing those who get beaten up. 8/
My bar for oppression is VERY high. Yes, women face their own unique challenges in life, and men have others. I don’t know what it’s like to be female. I also don’t think a creep yelling rude/lewd things at you in public, while gross, is the worst thing ever. Sorry not sorry. 9/
I say this as someone who experienced sexual assault & is recovering from hard substance abuse: Catastrophizing small but unpleasant things does NOT help people who’ve experienced trauma. Neither does going through life falsely believing you are being systematically targeted. 10/
People living in modern developed nations really have no business whinging about how oppressed they are – they don& #39;t know the meaning of the word. I *barely* glimpsed what real hardship was when I was a homeless addict that was missing meals & lost 40lbs in a single month. 11/
Example #2 of “misogyny”, funnily enough, is me dunking on someone my inquisitors would call a TERF. That’s right, I don’t agree with THEIR ideology either! Specifically, I disagree with collectively accusing all gay men of misogyny just because you disagree with 1 guy. 12/
The transphobia accusation is due to my lack of belief in 623 genders and outspokenness (on Twitter only, mind you) of this view. This is expected, as even trans people who say the same things I do are pilloried for it. I reject the accusation just the same. 13/
I follow and am followed by trans people, both FtM and MtF. Believing that biological sex and sexual orientation are real & stating that I am same sex-attracted is not hate. I can both disagree with and decline to have sex with someone and still respect them & their rights. 14/
Blaire White outlines pretty well in her recent video that not being on the fringes of gender ideology doesn& #39;t mean you& #39;re transphobic:
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She& #39;s">https://www.youtube.com/watch... far from the only trans person to say so. 15/
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She& #39;s">https://www.youtube.com/watch... far from the only trans person to say so. 15/
I’ve also met trans people in real life and got along with them. And yes, I respected their pronouns. Again, I am not a hateful bigot simply because I disagree with Social Justice ideology. I’ve never argued that racism, sexism & transphobia don’t exist, either. 16/
My real sin isn’t any phobia or sexism, it’s posting my contrarian opinions publicly. “He could have just shut the fuck up,” is an excerpt from the barrage of bullying my boyfriend got. Only the Correct Opinions™ are allowed – unapproved ones will result in cancellation. 17/
Well guess what? He doesn’t share my political views & doesn’t have to. We debate sometimes but never berate each other. He *might* be able to change my view – he engages in rational adult discussion. His friends, while well-meaning, have exactly 0 chance of doing the same. 18/
At least not with the strategy of trying to bully him into dumping me. I’m still willing to sit down with them & talk things out. Find common ground if possible, agree to disagree if not. I’m not advocating for genocide here, folks! I just have different opinions. 19/
