LRT read that. It's fucking important. I've done a lot of therapy and recognize a lot of this shit for what it is now. The moment someone told me about the last person I dealt with I was like "oh fuck, you're right, this person is trash" because manipulators are *good at it*

People don't seem to realize that serial abusers and manipulators are really good as disguising themselves as "good people" long enough for them to try to control you and get what they want out of you.

In my experience they are extra careful to craft their behaviour for their friends. They are a different person to everyone they know for the express purpose of hiding their behaviour and being able to fly under the radar.