i think shipping is neat because it lets you explore your own wants and needs in an ideal relationship by, in a sense, living vicariously through fictional characters and experiencing secondhand romance

so when ppl are like "my problematic ships dont reflect me irl!" im like. hm

in particular i find it really lovely that gay people can express themselves through gay ships in a world full of straight people that often doesn't recognize them otherwise

so if you're introducing other things like age gaps and incest into the mix, it's like... wh... my guy

in an ideal world, "pro-ship" would mean you support people being their most embarrassingly earnest selves with romantic content, cringe be damned. hell be horny as fuck if you want as long as you're not exposing any minors to it or anything
but instead it means "i like incest"