Okay so I feel kind of ready to say some stuff. It’s not going to be a grand public statement though. I’m just saying what’s been on my mind so I understand if people don’t want to read it all. I may add things later too.

There are people on here that I engage with, like a lot and respect mutually. I know those people probably do care to know my thoughts.

The past few days I didn’t want to speak, because I felt that being known to have a friendship with someone that’s on the list (Jesse) would basically invalidate anything I said or felt....I honestly also didn’t know what I wanted to say

I’d never come on here and reveal the details, or outcomes, of private conversations (although I get that people want to know). It’s just not me.

But I can definitely say that since the list came out, just like everyone else, I’ve watched it unfold and I’ve spoken to people (friends and strangers) and become aware of at least some of the stories behind it.

Everything I’ve seen and heard has made me admire the women who’ve spoken about their experiences publicly, and I respect that so much.

I’ve seen some people suggest that “I knew” and went along with it etc, which honestly just isn’t it. Unless someone that was involved actually says it, or you see it, then there’s just no way, until something like this happens.

I’ve had my own experiences that I could have contributed to that list if I was braver, so I fully understand it. I’ve seen a lot on the TL that’s unsettled me over the last few days, and I’ve suppressed those feelings.

For other people who haven’t spoken yet or who might choose not to speak, I really think everyone should be granted the right to deal with things in their own time and in their own way...

I say that because some of the girls being dragged for not speaking out are dealing with feelings about abuse they’ve suffered personally, on top of being subjected to pressure to speak up/denounce certain people etc...so please just think before you make these sorts of demands.

I’m still dealing with things (personally) so maybe I’ll say more in time, but I think I’ve said everything I feel comfortable saying for now.

I know it won’t be enough for some people but I really can’t go further than this until I feel sure about what I’m saying. It wouldn’t be honest or genuine.