Ok so here goes... TW / Sexual Assault #IBelieveHer

I have never said this out loud, I have never told anyone and I set up this account because I am not ready for this to be on my main.

December 2017 I was assaulted by a semi famous semi professional boxer in Dublin.

I was having the time of my life, enjoying living and working in this city. Meeting guys and having one night stands. Up until this night I was always in control, I had fun, I was always safe. I had no bad experiences..

On this night I was pretty drunk, full of pre-Christmas lols but I was aware of my surroundings and who I was with. I met this guy who I thought was so good looking... a bit rough around the edges, a real Dub if you get me... flat cap and all...

We went back to mine (my idea) and we started having sex. He was dominant but not to a point where I felt unsafe or like I wanted it to stop. He turned me over and we started to do doggy style.

At some point he removed the condom. He did not ask or tell me that this was happening at any point. It was only when he finished that I realised what had happened. I was furious. I asked him why and he just shrugged and said it felt better

He fell asleep and I just lay there. Enraged. The next morning I went to the bathroom and when I came back into my room he had left... so classy right? He had left some personal belongings behind (passport, wallet, LV man-bag)

I took a picture of his passport. I don’t know why but I knew I’d want to look him up on social media. About 5 mins later he came back for his stuff. I shoved them into his hands and slammed the front door.

I was so embarrassed, and so disappointed in myself that I got so carried away with this cute guy that I wasn’t aware of what was happening. I looked him up on socials.

There he is on Instagram with his gorgeous long term model girlfriend. Lovely. I thought about reaching out to this stunning girl but I didn’t think she’d believe me (compared to her I’m like a 3/10)

A few days later I saw him in the paper with a host of Irish celebrities in Temple St hospital handing out presents to kids. I took a pic and DMd him on insta and wished him and his gf a lovely Christmas

He replied and said “thanks but your account is on private so I can’t see who you are :) x”. I made my account public and told him to look. He blocked me

I never considered what happened to me as rape or assault but I knew it wasn’t right. I’d never heard of #stealthing. Reading the stories of survivors over the last couple of days has made me realise what happened to me was not ok in any way.

Even though nobody will ever see this (probably) I had to get it out there. There is a fundamental issue with how men and women in this country are taught about sex and consent and it has to change.

I checked his twitter and there he is tweeting about how fucked up Epstein was and liking tweets from survivors. Fuck you. You are the problem.

Five days after he assaulted me he was on @JOEdotie for sports joe live... that was a treat #LadsLadsLads

**Update** I just wanted to clear up a couple of things here because the FB comments on the article are an absolute dumpster fire..

1) There was a condom being used when we started. He removed it and didn’t tell me.

2) It did not break, it was thrown on the floor beside my bed

3) Of course I was worried about the knock on effects so I got the morning after pill the following day in @BootsUK - the person who I dealt with was really rude and I wanted to get out of there as fast as possible

4) I didn’t do this to ruin someone’s life or reputation. If I wanted to do that I would have actively sought out the press at the time and I would have named him publicly.

5) There is no new spin on this. The facts have always been the facts. Some I did not include in this thread - it doesn’t make them less true.

6) I did not seek him out, I did not wear him down, I did not try to make money out of this.

7) No I will not send you the screenshot of the Instagram messages