#nofgm what happens when marriage takes place when you are mutilated? Extremely had read but vital and educational

1 if you are in your own country. You will most likely not taken to the hospital to be opened up so that you can consummate marriage. This is is nightmare for the woman or girl t depends what age you are

The marriage ceremony is massive. In my own culture. The ceremony continues for 7 days. Those 7 days are just you and your husband and the person cooking and cleaning for you.

The night after you married. The family come in the morning. If you are virgin your bed will be soaked in blood. No one cares that you will be in pain as you have been teared forcibly. Everyone wants to know that you are virgin then they celebrate more

I remember everytime one my cousins got married. I didn't see for at least 3 months. All I heard was ,they are in hospital and i was told they weren't well. I knew that was not correct. In my head I just knew.

But I never dreamed of what was happening to them. 1 of my cousins I beg her to come and tell me what's happen after marriage .I begged and she agreed . Same thing happened. I didn't get to see for a long time. When I asked where is she. Same answer. She is not well

I am told.
She comes back to visit. She looks so unwell deshelved. It's not the vibrant happy girl that went to get married. She looked painfully thin and in pain. I rushed her to our room. I begged to tell me everything

What she told me had culled in a ball in my room and begging God not to put me through that. My cousin said. See how we cant we properly. Now imagine that hole a rolling pin goes through it forcefully. She said women came next morning and they sung and danced.

They were proud that she was a virgin. Thank God I didn't go through that nightmare. As we speak women are going through that. Been mutilated alone wasn't enough trauma. By marriage itself is another trauma. Then birth awaits Another trauma too. I looked at my life as

1 giant trauma. Thank I got to UK and got Deinfibulated which means. I was opened up so that I can wee and have period normal. I am sharing such a personal intimate details because FGM is still raging like everlasting wild fire

My threads are extremely hard to read .imagine 200 million women and girls worldwide who have undergone FGM imagine their live. Imagine their pain and despair. 8000 girls per day are mutilated worldwide. I will continue to fight