I read the comments on sexual assault allegation posts (hint: do not do that!) and I feel like I need to address something here that a lot of people seem to not understand:

If a girl is 16-19 years old, she does not "know perfectly well what she's doing"

To speak from personal experience, I've been in a lot of "relationships" with folks, and up until I was about 22, I did not know what I was doing! I have actively pursued a partner twice in my life. Every other time, I was coerced into it. By my peers & by ppl significantly older

I thought I was making friends. I genuinely thought these men were being nice to me because I was a Cool, Interesting Person To Be Friends With. By the time I realized that was not the case, it was too late.

I went on my first date on my 20th birthday and I didn't realize it was a date. I accepted a ride home from the airport from a friend and I didn't realize he was going to try to come over to my apartment afterward. I let someone buy me a drink and I didn't realize what it meant.

I've stayed silent about these things because I thought they were my fault. I thought I was stupid and naive, that I should have recognize the signs, that I encouraged things when all I was doing was being nice and trying to make friends.

This isn't a callout post. None of these shady dudes were Famous Or Important. It's a reminder that if you think women are at fault for being assaulted, maybe take a good hard look in the mirror and understand you might just be predatory.