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My sex education consisted of:
1.) Being brutally raped before I even had my first kiss
2.) 1.) Being told that because I was raped, I was a “torn up flower” & had to apologize to my husband on my wedding day (thanks, public school!)
So here’s a sex education thread:
1.) Being brutally raped before I even had my first kiss
2.) 1.) Being told that because I was raped, I was a “torn up flower” & had to apologize to my husband on my wedding day (thanks, public school!)
So here’s a sex education thread:
Before I get started:
1.) This thread will contain some personal + graphic descriptions so please don’t read if you are triggered by that sort of thing! Your well being is #1
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2.) This thread is intended for adults
1.) This thread will contain some personal + graphic descriptions so please don’t read if you are triggered by that sort of thing! Your well being is #1
2.) This thread is intended for adults
3.) I’m focusing on female anatomy for now because that’s what I have & know best, & also where I’ve seen the greatest misinformation about & shaming of in society in general. So, here we go:
1.) DO NOT get your sex education from PornHub. Click the link in my bio to read how they knowingly profited from my rape at age 14 for over 6 months while I begged them daily to remove it. & much of porn in general isn’t for education purposes- sex workers will tell you that
Also, if you’re a minor you shouldn’t be watching porn at all & this is a hill I’m willing to die on. If one or more adults were being sexual in front of a child & letting them watch, that would be a sex crime. It’s not okay just because it’s digital. Porn is ADULT content.
Personal story: the first time I had sex, the guy was horrible to me in more ways than I can list here but he also told me my body was broken & defective... because I didn’t have an orgasm from two seconds of penetration. The sad part? I believed him because I didn’t know better.
As a result, I didn’t even try to touch myself for FOUR years after that. When I discovered- he was a dumbass & I could in fact have an orgasm. It took a few tries, but it happened & now years later I know my body extremely well.
On the topic of masturbation- please please be careful with what you put on or in your body. Try to stick to materials with minimal chemicals & toxins, because anything you put on or in yourself gets absorbed transdermally or transvaginally to at least some degree.
It’s true that some intense vibrators like the hitachi magic wand can de-sensitize you a bit- but it’s almost always temporarily. Just take a break for a while!
There is nothing gross about touching yourself- including squirting. There are mixed studies on what it actually is but either way https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🤷🏻♀️" title="Achselzuckende Frau (heller Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Achselzuckende Frau (heller Hautton)"> if he gets peed on, he gets peed on (I’m bi so don’t @ me calling me homophobic lmao men are the most grossed out by the female body so I said he)
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There’s a lot of credible research showing that the G spot isn’t actually a random spot, but is instead part of the internal clitoral complex- in case you didn’t know, the clit isn’t just a tiny button- it has a HUGE internal part that you can’t even see https://www.foriawellness.com/blogs/learn/how-to-find-the-g-spot">https://www.foriawellness.com/blogs/lea...
Moving onto sex- consent isn’t “sexy” - that implies it’s almost optional- it’s the absolute basic bare minimum. A requirement. Talk with your partner(s) beforehand about everything. Don’t just assume that because they’ll be okay with one thing, they will be okay with everything.
If someone asks you to stop during sex, STOP IMMEDIATELY or else you are committing sexual assault.
Kinky stuff is just that- KINKY. You can’t just be having sex with someone & jump into that stuff without extra consent & assume its going to be fine. Get extra consent first!! Also- there’s nothing wrong with vanilla sex. Whatever consensual sex you’re comfortable with is valid!
You CAN get STI’s from oral & anal sex, & in many cases it’s actually more likely. I have some educator & therapist friends who tell me that that they’re shocked by the amount of young women who believe that you can only get STI’s from penetrative sex. Please protect yourself!
The appearance of your anatomy can vary SO much. There is no right or wrong way for it to look & trends in mainstream porn don’t dictate the norm or mean YOU need to look that way! It’s also common for people of color (like myself- I’m indigenous) to be a darker color down there
Speaking of appearance, it’s SUPER common for natural breasts to hang lower especially if you’ve had large ones your entire life ( @RoseKalemba https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="🙋🏻♀️" title="Happy woman raising one hand (heller Hautton)" aria-label="Emoji: Happy woman raising one hand (heller Hautton)">) & a lot of people also have one that’s bigger than the other. There is no right or wrong way for them to look!
If ANYONE makes you feel bad or insecure about any part of your body, they don’t deserve access to it. Ever. Leave them & tell them to
I’m going to make a whole separate post sometime on how to feel empowered sexually after an assault/abuse!! I kind of want to see if this potential collaboration I’m discussing with my favorite lingerie company is going to happen first because I think that would be perfect timing
But one easy way is to get yourself some pretty lingerie! No one else has to see it except for you- in my opinion, lingerie should always be primarily for yourself anyways. Figure out what you like & wear it under your clothes/sleep in it/ do a mini photoshoot just for yourselfhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💕" title="Zwei Herzen" aria-label="Emoji: Zwei Herzen">
Important: you don’t need a partner to have a healthy relationship with sex!! No one believes me when I say this but it’s 100% true- I have not so much as kissed anyone in over 9 years. I’m dead serious. This has a lot to do with my trauma AND social anxiety. It’s a choice-
-a choice I’m not going to make forever. But to allow someone access to my body is a huge thing for me & I haven’t met anyone I want to trust like that. My last relationship I just got out of that lasted years was long distance & so were the sexual components.
But my point is that I don’t have sex currently (& have chosen not to for a LONG time) BUT I still have a very healthy relationship with/knowledge of my body. I’m grateful for the choices I’ve made to stay abstinent for so long because I’ve learned SO MUCH about my own body!
By the way, this is my favorite sex toy out of any I own so far- I have it in pink but that color isn’t available anymore but there’s some left in stock of the purple one on amazon! Please feel free to share your toy recommendations on this thread https://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💕" title="Zwei Herzen" aria-label="Emoji: Zwei Herzen">
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So this isn’t by an means an exhaustive education thread, but if you guys want more content like this I’ll definitely do more in the future!! I try to speak primarily from my own personal experiences above all. I hope this can help at least one person feel good about their bodyhttps://abs.twimg.com/emoji/v2/... draggable="false" alt="💕" title="Zwei Herzen" aria-label="Emoji: Zwei Herzen">
