if the only kind of queer media you can handle and think is appropriate is low-stakes romcoms and soft PG stories, maybe interrogate yourself as to why you think like that

Lgbt people are not a monolyth & have a right to narrate their pain, their messiness, their complexity, their sexuality & their passion with just as much range & independence usually afforded to cishet media, without the burden of having to write universally relatable stories

If we can accept that not every cishet movie/show/book depicts relationships we relate to or like or even personally approve of, why is it that every piece of queer media is required to fill a list of requirements in order to be considered "good rep"? What even is "good rep"?

My experience is not your experience and even within the different letters of the LGBTQ acronym the intra-community experiences and thoughts are not universal. There is no "universal gay experience", no "universal lesbian experience" no "universal trans experience".

If a story is not for you, then it's not for you. It's not necessarily "bad rep". It's not necessarily "harmful".
There is no queer monolith.