These are just some Thoughts about Feelings, idk how I would categorize them but: jealousy for me is a very frustrating but informative feeling, and has helped me many times discover pieces of my identity. And I wish it wasn't shamed so much as investigated.-

I'm thinkin about it bc I'm thinking about polyam. I used to be "uncomfortable" with it but a more specific feeling was "jealous". I didn't wanna think about it, bc it represented something I couldn't have (or thought I couldn't have).

I see this echo in other parts of me. Being jealous of pretty women, jealous of handsome men, jealous of thinness, and jealous of women who love other women and could say they didn't love men.

It revealed to me a want, and conversely a lack of something. With some things it was a lack of support - ie. fatphobia and my relationship with my gender.

And I think acknowledging jealousy not as something shameful but as a need to be fulfilled, a part of you unexplored and asking for attention, is much more useful than asking yourself to settle.

It's also important to acknowledge jealousy as such, because letting it fester will inevitably hurt other people. Instead of turning it to love for yourself it becomes hate for others. Realizing this opened my eyes to a lot of small prejudices I had in my day to day.

Anyway, idk what this thread is. I think on a small level a lot of the little conflicts I see people have are rooted in this philosophy. Humanity is insecure. And I hope we can learn not to shame ourselves for jealousy.

Also again, to clarify bc people will use this as an excuse to be soft uwu on themselves for being genuinely awful: if you're a bigot you deserve to be ashamed, this thread is for good people questioning their goodness, not bad people trying to excuse their shit behavior