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how men try to pressure/guilt-trip you into having sex with them and what can you do in that situation- a thread based on a personal experience.
i found myself in this situation last night and when i got home it got me thinking - fortunately i was experienced enough that i didn’t fall for it but i have in the past as well as the most of the girls i know. however it’s very hard & confusing situation and even being +
experienced can’t help sometimes. it hit me how this isn’t anywhere near discussed enough and i wanted to make this thread to share something about how it usually goes down and what can you do to stand up for yourself if you find yourself in this situation.
there is a lot to cover so bear with me, this thread may be long but i think it’s very important. since my case from last night is a great example i will just tell you what went on and what i did.
so i was out with this guy i know last night, our relationship is pretty complex and i won’t get into it but just say how he tried to pressure me into having sex with him. we were drinking in a bar and i was gonna eat, when i asked him if he was hungry he said
he would “eat me later”, to which i didn’t reply anything because i was uncomfortable and didn’t know what to say. we went to his place and i said before we got there that i was feeling sick and couldn’t stay for a long time, didn’t wanna go there in the first place but
he persuaded me to go. so we were there and he started kissing me and trying to take my clothes off, i said no, i’m feeling sick and i don’t wanna do anything. he didn’t stop kissing me tho and still was trying to make me change my mind by pushing me into it
i said stop, what is wrong with you, and he still wouldn’t stop. i was pushing him away and kept saying what is wrong with you again and again until he finally stopped, put on a very sad face and started sulking in the corner. pathetic
i said i was gonna go, put on my shoes and he was acting mad, at some point he told me with a very sad voice how “earlier when he told me he would eat me i didnt complain and i am now complaining” word to word this is what he said. you get what he was trying to say
i asked wtf was i supposed to say, i was silent and he said “well, you didn’t say anything, so...” implying that i was okay with it then. i confronted him and he once again tried to manipulate me by saying i need to consider him. i asked what he meant by that and he said to
put it in google translate (english is not my first language) so i would understand. mind you i know damn well what consider means but how he said it didn’t make sense. after asking him again & again what he meant by that he said & i quote
“well when i don’t want to do something that another person wants to, i still do it because of the other person” meaning i should have had sex with him even if i didn’t want to because he was “in the mood”
when i put it like that in front of him he said he didn’t mean it like that and he IS mad but he can’t to anything about it and went back to mentionning how i didn’t say anything when he said he was gonna “eat me” and other manipulative stuff
while i was talking back to him he started kissing me again and humping me while i was standing by the door, ready to go. he said i should “seduce him for 5 minutes”. he was desperately trying to make me feel bad for not wanting to have sex
he kept trying to take me to bed saying we wouldn’t do anything but thats all lies of course. please don’t ever fall for it. if you don’t feel comfortable kissing, going to bed, etc, don’t just do it because of the other person. please.
i pushed him away and said how he kept saying he wouldn’t do anything but humping me, feeling me up and all that stuff was not “not doing anything”. he backed off and i went home.
this is just a typical example of what men do/say when they try to guilt-trip you. they want to make you feel bad for not having sex and they will make it seem like a favor you could do for them. if you ever find yourself into a similar situation, please don’t feel bad,
don’t let them make you feel like you’re doing something bad, stand up for yourself, ask them what exactly do they mean when they say stuff like this guy said so they will have to say it out loud & you will realize better what’s going on
if they don’t stop when you say stop and try to continue in order for you to change your mind, push them away and walk out. don’t give a shit about their feelings cause i promise you, they don’t give a shit about yours. don’t fal into their manipulation,
you do anything you need to do to make sure you’re not being taken advantage of. i’ve talked about this with my friends and they all said they’ve been into a situation before when they had sex not because they wanted to, but they felt like they should have. you don’t owe anything
to ANYONE. i get that many of you would be confused in that situation and maybe not fully understand what is really going on. most girls have been there. this is why i made this thread, to try and infrom how these situations usually go so you know when you’re in one and don’t
allow it. i would talk a lot more but i don’t wanna make this thread longer & harder to read. please don’t hesitate to stand up for yourself if you ever are in a similar situation. i know how hard it is, i know how weak you feel in that moment but
don’t let anyone ever make you feel like you owe them shit. cause you don’t. i love you all & hope you never find youself in this disgusting situation, but if you do, i want you to be prepared and not get shy. please feel free to share your experiences & have a
further discussion because this topic is not talked about enough and we really need to change it. hope this thread informed you even just a little, i hope all you my babies are safe 
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