the way in which therapy doesent make men or anyone for that matter a better, kinder, more accountable person

that work almost entirely has to stem from ur own desire 2 change and heal and the folks around u holding u responsible for this s

shift* you can go to therapy and still mistreat folks and be defensive and manipulative therapy oftentimes (matters what kind dbt addresses this ive heard) *ur* feelings and traumas around situations and unpacks why u feel or have responded that way, not the harm that has been

done to others and how to repair this if you don’t specifically come into ur session with this intention! not to mention how so many of us have learned therapy terms to justify our mean or harmful or ego centered behaviors

but also many things can be true at once! Therapy is still important and necessary, sometimes we unintentionally hurt or harm others bc of our traumas. but its only one part of the healing process, and it doesent guarentee that you will treat others better or w more care

(and therefore cannot be proposed as the end all be all solution to problematic patterns of behavior)

sry this thread is so long but i am definitely not the first person to say this (these r just personal feelings and experiences) but there are a lot of articles nd texts u can read on TJ and community accountability that addresses this as well