Lost a friend due to my thoughts about consent. I am not victim blaming, I am not a rape apologist, I am not enabling rapist.

I am a realist. I know how certain men think. Rapists, they do NOT care about consent. They do NOT care when someone says NO.

Men, even women, when they get horny, being rational and thinking right goes out the window. Which is why so many cases of "terlanjur". Which is why in Islam, we should stay away from anything that might be an opportunity to commit zina.

I have had male friends who openly talk..

about women like a piece of meat. Ogling at sexy girls, pretty girls and even those who cover themselves properly

Guys who fap at photos of girls posing innocently in outfits that are not even revealing on Instagram. I was a victim of this..

Can we stop these men? Can we tell them off? Can you tell a rapist to stop raping? Please be real. Believe me I want it to be that easy. But it is not how things work.

Then there will be those who would say what I just said as enabling and giving more power to the rapists.

We cannot control others, but we can control ourselves. Girls we can prevent such traumatising experiences from happening.

Won't deny that there are unfortunate instances that whatever we have done, it still does happen.

But we can try our best to do whatever we have in our..

power to avoid from bad things happening.

I used to socialize around, mix freely with male friends, and have had my own experience being harrased.

One day a guy told me what his friend wanted to do to me. And I realised, I was being too friendly. I didn't notice this till..

my male friend pointed it out. I scrolled through my conversations on WhatsApp and understood what he meant.

I slowly changed the way I talk to men. I avoided mingling around, even like lepak mamak. And since then, I did not experience any sexual harassment.

I am talking based on my own experiences & from a friend that has been gang raped. She too has changed her ways & no longer experience such trauma.

Girls I love you all so much. I just hate it when men take advantage over you. You all deserve better & should be respected

And I am absolutely against those who say "padan muka, siapa suruh" to women who have been sexually harassed or raped. There are a lot of times things are beyond our control.

And even if it were, it doesn't help at all. After going through such trauma we should support..

.. console & not further aggravate the trauma she went through. The damage is already done.

We take these incidents for other girls out there, to avoid being a victim. Help yourself before becoming helpless.

You are way too precious to be taken advantage of.

What about the rapists? https://twitter.com/sueannajoe_/status/1273826121532895234?s=19