One side effect of having a trans person in your life is that our mere presence will out bigots for you. They honestly can’t help but make some kind of transphobic slight or comment because that’s what bigots do.

We are the canaries in the coal mines for hidden fascist beliefs.

I don’t want it to be true, I didn’t ask for it, and I damn sure want every fascist to die in pain WWII style, but it’s just an observation of reality that can help our non-bigoted friends keep bigots away from us and them.

Oh, and RARELY will it be said while the trans person is in your company. No. Look for it after, hidden in “reasonable” language. “Soft transphobia” as I call it.

Lastly, you might think I use the word “fascist” a lot, but frankly, when you’re a trans person, you better fucking know about fascists because they want us dead. Trans, gay, and disabled folks are usually their first targets. We are ‘degenerates’ to them.

Know your enemy.