Like I was saying though..if you really stan/love someone holding them accountable is what you should really do. If you stan/love them then you should call them out and tell them what they should do better. https://twitter.com/mj_sweetgirl130/status/1270489530777382912

It’s just sad that so many people still take accountability as an attack on their character. If someone truly loves you, they’re supposed to hold you accountable for your problematic actions because they want you to learn from your mistakes and become a better person!

Even better if someone themselves made a mistake or did something problematic they should hold themselves accountable. They need to acknowledge and admit that they messed up.

But even before someone really apologizes they should really self reflect on it and figure out how they can make things right and even figure out how to genuinely apologize.

And to really genuinely apologize you have to express that you’re sorry, own up to your actions, name specific actions, state the impact your actions had on those who are affected, and make amends by asking what you can do better or, even better, doing your research!

Proper apologies don’t use IFs, aren’t passive, don’t play the victim, or don’t put the blame on the actual victim!

And it’s no secret that we all fuck up. We’re human! But accountability is truly the thing that can really make things better.

So the moral is

1) if you truly love somebody, you wouldn’t let someone off for their shitty actions.

2) if you really cared, you’d hold yourself accountable for your own shitty actions

3) ACCOUNTABILITY is the key to really learning from things!

So like I said, WE ARE HUMAN!! We are all problematic in ways! It’s better to learn from it rather than be defensive about it!

Lmao thanks for coming to my Ted Talk