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I love my kids, and I love their Mother.
I don& #39;t like bringing issues to Twitter, but I feel like sharing.
It hurts me so bad to raise them between a divided family.
Though I regret some of my actions, but people only listened to her part of the story, not mine.
So, be the judge
I don& #39;t like bringing issues to Twitter, but I feel like sharing.
It hurts me so bad to raise them between a divided family.
Though I regret some of my actions, but people only listened to her part of the story, not mine.
So, be the judge
I was working in a big firm in the north and was financially above average.
Bimbo was in 300 level when we met in Ekiti State University.
I went there when my firm was looking for University students as ambassadors.
She was looking so beautiful without any flaw!
Bimbo was in 300 level when we met in Ekiti State University.
I went there when my firm was looking for University students as ambassadors.
She was looking so beautiful without any flaw!
I got her phone number, and that was how we started the journey.
It was a beautiful relationship when we started even though it was long distance. After a year of dating,I went to Ekiti to meet her parents.
They said they wouldn& #39;t allow their daughter to marry a different tribe.
It was a beautiful relationship when we started even though it was long distance. After a year of dating,I went to Ekiti to meet her parents.
They said they wouldn& #39;t allow their daughter to marry a different tribe.
It was like a rapture.
She was carrying my child already, so it was a difficult situation.
I told them I grew up in Lagos and moved to the North 9years ago.
They were not even having it or look convinced. I could see the tears on Bimbo& #39;s eyes even though she was faking a smile.
She was carrying my child already, so it was a difficult situation.
I told them I grew up in Lagos and moved to the North 9years ago.
They were not even having it or look convinced. I could see the tears on Bimbo& #39;s eyes even though she was faking a smile.
After two months with the same response, her parents said she should get rid of the pregnancy.
She packed her things and came over to the North.
I paid for her flight and all.
Her dad told her she shouldn& #39;t come back home.
We did a court wedding.
Then she started her NYSC.
She packed her things and came over to the North.
I paid for her flight and all.
Her dad told her she shouldn& #39;t come back home.
We did a court wedding.
Then she started her NYSC.
I worked it to the same state and same firm I was working in.
Then her pregnancy got heavier.
Her attitude changed, I couldn& #39;t feel the love anymore, and she can& #39;t go home at this moment.
We stopped having sex too, and everything wasn& #39;t just normal anymore.
Then her pregnancy got heavier.
Her attitude changed, I couldn& #39;t feel the love anymore, and she can& #39;t go home at this moment.
We stopped having sex too, and everything wasn& #39;t just normal anymore.
We had two boys after nine months.
And it was all downslope from there.
She was staying home to take care of the kids while I go to work.
She wasn& #39;t organized, so my house always looks like a ghetto anytime I get back from work.
She diverted all attention to the kids.
And it was all downslope from there.
She was staying home to take care of the kids while I go to work.
She wasn& #39;t organized, so my house always looks like a ghetto anytime I get back from work.
She diverted all attention to the kids.
Nothing for me.
I was waiting for it to change, but it didn& #39;t.
A few months later, I started cheating. I met this young girl called Falilat.
She gave me peace away from home. My woman didn& #39;t care to be honest.
Her own was just for me to keep giving her money, and that was all.
I was waiting for it to change, but it didn& #39;t.
A few months later, I started cheating. I met this young girl called Falilat.
She gave me peace away from home. My woman didn& #39;t care to be honest.
Her own was just for me to keep giving her money, and that was all.
It was a Win-Win.
We stopped having sex when she was pregnant anyway.
Life at home became a torture for me, but Falilat always gives me peace away from home.
One day, I was home around 1 am when Falilat sent a text message.
My phone was with bimbo. She doesn& #39;t check my phone
We stopped having sex when she was pregnant anyway.
Life at home became a torture for me, but Falilat always gives me peace away from home.
One day, I was home around 1 am when Falilat sent a text message.
My phone was with bimbo. She doesn& #39;t check my phone
But that day, our boys were giving us sleepless nights, so she was trying to connect the Netflix on my phone to the Google Chromecast in our room when the message came in.
I had this sharp feeling that it was Falilat, so I came out from the toilet where I was having a quick wee.
I had this sharp feeling that it was Falilat, so I came out from the toilet where I was having a quick wee.
Immediately I saw the way she was looking at me; I knew I was in big trouble.
She handed my phone to me, and I read the Text message " I& #39;m pregnant" from Falilat.
That was when I knew the world would be ending that night.
I was stuttering while trying to explain.
She handed my phone to me, and I read the Text message " I& #39;m pregnant" from Falilat.
That was when I knew the world would be ending that night.
I was stuttering while trying to explain.
She started crying while repeatedly asking, "Why?".
I didn& #39;t know what to say or do.
Falilat isn& #39;t educated, so I knew I fucked up somehow.
Bimbo left the room.
I reached my phone, and I called Falilat to ask about what she just sent, she started laughing, saying, "April Fool."
I didn& #39;t know what to say or do.
Falilat isn& #39;t educated, so I knew I fucked up somehow.
Bimbo left the room.
I reached my phone, and I called Falilat to ask about what she just sent, she started laughing, saying, "April Fool."
Indeed the date was April 1st.
The anger in me, with the Bimbo issue, didn& #39;t let me know what to do or say.
I hung up and went to Bimbo to explain things to her in the living room.
I told her it was an April fool prank from a girl I was cheating with.
I told her the truth.
The anger in me, with the Bimbo issue, didn& #39;t let me know what to do or say.
I hung up and went to Bimbo to explain things to her in the living room.
I told her it was an April fool prank from a girl I was cheating with.
I told her the truth.
I became a changed man, but I won& #39;t lie, I was only doing all because of my boys.
There wasn& #39;t a single drop of Love in the relationship anymore.
I used to beg her for sex every time.
She doesn& #39;t do anything anymore than to take care of our boys.
There wasn& #39;t a single drop of Love in the relationship anymore.
I used to beg her for sex every time.
She doesn& #39;t do anything anymore than to take care of our boys.
I started doing my laundry, cook my food sometimes, and all.
I was still in contact with Falilat but just as friends.
Falilat needed some cash for her mom, so I sent her 200k.
I decided to tell Bimbo about it when I got back from work so that it won& #39;t be a secret. A big mistake.
I was still in contact with Falilat but just as friends.
Falilat needed some cash for her mom, so I sent her 200k.
I decided to tell Bimbo about it when I got back from work so that it won& #39;t be a secret. A big mistake.
She changed it for me big time, locked me up with my tie and shirt.
She started calling me all sorts of names while hitting her head on my chest, asking me just to kill her if that was the way I will be treating her.
I was angry too. I& #39;m human also, you know.
She started calling me all sorts of names while hitting her head on my chest, asking me just to kill her if that was the way I will be treating her.
I was angry too. I& #39;m human also, you know.
"What& #39;s the purpose of all you are doing now," I asked.
Next thing, I got another hit on my chest with her head.
So I slapped her and just rough handled her so she would leave me and I left the house.
She took the pictures of the bruises on her body and sent it to me.
Next thing, I got another hit on my chest with her head.
So I slapped her and just rough handled her so she would leave me and I left the house.
She took the pictures of the bruises on her body and sent it to me.
I lodged in a hotel that night to get away from her trouble.
She said she was going to report me to the Police, spoil my name, File a divorce, then go back home.
I wasn& #39;t scared because of her threat; I was bothered about my boys because I love them so much!
She said she was going to report me to the Police, spoil my name, File a divorce, then go back home.
I wasn& #39;t scared because of her threat; I was bothered about my boys because I love them so much!
About her legal threat, I was not scared because in the Nothern part of Nigeria in the provision of Penal Code, the beating of a wife for the purpose of correction is legal by use of (Section 55 (1) (d) of the Penal Code).
I knew my rights.
Well, She did all as promised.
I knew my rights.
Well, She did all as promised.
I got out of the whole issue and started my life all over again.
Her parent accepted her with the "I told you so" comments.
I only talk to my boys through WhatsApp video since then.
I am hoping for things to fall in place.
I love her but guess we didn& #39;t know each other well.
Her parent accepted her with the "I told you so" comments.
I only talk to my boys through WhatsApp video since then.
I am hoping for things to fall in place.
I love her but guess we didn& #39;t know each other well.
People judged me when they saw the pictures and accused me of getting away with domestic violence.
It& #39;s a dark part of my life, an injury that might never heal.
I& #39;m now tagged as a woman beater.
But God will be the judge of us all.
It& #39;s a dark part of my life, an injury that might never heal.
I& #39;m now tagged as a woman beater.
But God will be the judge of us all.
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