LRT: I've spoken about this before, but when you mess up and do something problematic/unhelpful/harmful (and you will mess up), you're going to feel shitty, but the worst thing to do is to then center yourself and your feelings rather than apologizing and acting to remediate

feeling shitty when you mess up and hurt someone/something (even if unintentional) is a completely normal and healthy reaction, but do not place the burden of soothing those feelings on those you've hurt

deal with your feelings privately with friends who are in a place to do so (again, not the people you've hurt), and act to immediately apologize (without expectations of forgiveness), learn from it (and use the lesson onwards), and remediate the harm as much as you can