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HEY NONBLACK FOLKS
i see a lot of "check in on your black friends" posts and they are well intentioned, but please be mindful of HOW you are checking on your black friends.
here is a thread on how to check in on your black friends.
i see a lot of "check in on your black friends" posts and they are well intentioned, but please be mindful of HOW you are checking on your black friends.
here is a thread on how to check in on your black friends.
DO NOT BOMBARD US WITH "you're so strong" messages. again, you are not the only one. yes it is well intended, but do you know how tiresome it gets hearing that i am strong for standing up for my right to be a human being? it's degrading.
WHAT NOT TO ASK
"are you okay?"
"how are you holding up?"
"do you want to talk?"
we are not okay. that part is clear. and if we wanted to talk, we would reach out.
"are you okay?"
"how are you holding up?"
"do you want to talk?"
we are not okay. that part is clear. and if we wanted to talk, we would reach out.
INSTEAD
"what can i do for you?"
"is there anything you need right now?"
"i am holding space if you need someone to listen"
this eliminates the need for us to expend energy on grief/trauma by telling u the ways we are not okay. it puts more emphasis on ur role as a safe space.
"what can i do for you?"
"is there anything you need right now?"
"i am holding space if you need someone to listen"
this eliminates the need for us to expend energy on grief/trauma by telling u the ways we are not okay. it puts more emphasis on ur role as a safe space.
THINGS TO EXPECT
- simple correspondence: remember you aren't the only one hitting up your friends.
- silence: again, you are not the only one, and we need time to process. this is exhausting.
- hard conversations that will make you uncomfortable: white people suck. get over it.
- simple correspondence: remember you aren't the only one hitting up your friends.
- silence: again, you are not the only one, and we need time to process. this is exhausting.
- hard conversations that will make you uncomfortable: white people suck. get over it.
IF your friends choose to engage you in conversation about what is going on right now, LISTEN TO THEM. do not insert your views, feelings and thoughts into a conversation meant to center your black friends. HOLD THE SPACE, don't hog it. and again, be prepared to be uncomfortable.
DISTRACTIONS
memes, songs that remind you of them, poems, animal photos, new anime recommendations, literally ANYTHING that will get our minds off of the atrocities that are happening around us.
memes, songs that remind you of them, poems, animal photos, new anime recommendations, literally ANYTHING that will get our minds off of the atrocities that are happening around us.
MONETARY WAYS YOU CAN HELP YOUR BLACK FRIENDS
- money: deposit into their cashapps for food, bail (if protesting), supplies, etc.
- donations: donate to a black charity or fund on their behalf
- care packages: mail things to your friends to remind them you are thinking of them.
- money: deposit into their cashapps for food, bail (if protesting), supplies, etc.
- donations: donate to a black charity or fund on their behalf
- care packages: mail things to your friends to remind them you are thinking of them.
many have asked for ways to give me money. my venmo/cashapp is makirollofficial but pls consider donating here first thank you.
Black Visions Collective
https://secure.everyaction.com/4omQDAR0oUiUagTu0EG-Ig2
Reclaim The Block https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2
North Star Health Collective
https://northstarhealthcollective.org/donate
Black Visions Collectivehttps://secure.everyaction.com/4omQDAR0oUiUagTu0EG-Ig2
Reclaim The Block https://secure.everyaction.com/zae4prEeKESHBy0MKXTIcQ2North Star Health Collectivehttps://northstarhealthcollective.org/donate
