CW// rape fantasies/SA

I'm still yet to get an explanation from any anti that relentlessly harassed me for having a non-con kink/rape fantasies as to how having these is bad and with a reason that isn't rooted in victim-blaming, blame-shifting, and radfem anti-kink rhetoric.
"You'll want to be raped." is victim blaming and saying we deserve our abuse if it happened. Not woke.
"You'll commit rape." Is saying people are incapable of understanding right from wrong and that the fantasies are responsible for rapists, not their actions.
We are treated -
like children who are incapable of making our own decisions and thinking for ourselves and need to be kept away from these things or it'll warp our entire world view. Which, maybe if you are an impressionable kid with no strong real life education, perhaps, but kids have no place
in 18+ NSFW spaces where adults explore taboo and dark kinks/fantasies and it's more productive to focus on education in the real world. You're not actually solving anything or doing anything to save victims of rape to harass people for these fantasies.
"It normalizes sexual violence." How? Rape is bad. This is not controversial. Rape culture comes from saying things that are rape are not, or in simpler terms, things that are boundary violations are in fact not (many antis do not understand boundaries though so not surprised).
"You're fetishizing/glorifying sexual violence." Is rich coming from the people who often draw gore art (even sexual/sexy gore art) and can understand violence in fiction does not mean you want to commit it in real life, but why is it with sexual violence it's different?
I genuinely don't understand and all I've seen is people against non-con kinks harass usually survivors for having them, which has been my entire case from the people claiming to "want to protect survivors". It's like they are saying fuck you for being a victim and having a
complicated relationship to your own trauma. Basically in my case it's been "for having trauma and needing to work through it in a safe way we don't agree with, we're going to give you additional trauma" But even then plenty of people with these fantasies are not rape victims.
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