I've made some progress these years with my parents. Happy to chat with anyone who's struggling with their parents' racist views. They can change. YOU need to first show them it's possible. https://twitter.com/kimmythepooh/status/1266388049400868865

Elaborate a bit more on this. It was very shameful for me to hold a diversity and inclusion job during the day, then hear my parents say things hurtful in the night. I thought it's impossible to speak with them on those issues and avoided convos on race for a long time.

Things finally escalated to a level that I can't turn my back and ignore. We had a big fight. It was bad. We yelling at each other in the car. They were pissed for being called out.
Yea, I called them out like how I do it on Twitter, but in real life.

That fight changed how I think about the whole race discussion with my family. I started inserting my experience of racism in family chats. Lots of those. I made them to face the fact that their daughter is ALSO a victim. (I used the same strategy to force them face MeToo.)

I can tell my mom started view things differently. She started to ask me questions about being a minority in the U.S., which is a thing they've never experienced and never thought about in the past. And I applaud her for taking initiatives.

She once asked when I have kid with my partner, an Asian, if my kid will be bullied for being Asian. I laughed.
"Mom, my kid will be Asian, cuz I am Asian."
Wow, She didn't realize my kid will be Asian no matter who my partner is. It was a mindblowing moment for her.

Does she fully understand and support Black Lives Matter movement now? Probably still not there yet. But why would I ever give up the opportunity to engage with my parents on an issue that's so important to myself. They will see the world through my eyes, one day.

I grew up in that family. And if I can learn sympathy and empathy in that environment, I don't see the reason my parents can't. If my parents taught me how to love, I believe they are loving people. They need to learn the history, the context, the influence. And it's changeable.

And honestly I blame the media. All they see on big screens every day in their entire life had no diversity. How would they know any better? Many of us are determined to change media diversity. I look at my parents and know the work has to be done in my generation.