As an international fan, I think 1. we need to be more respectful of Thai gay culture and stop imposing our outsiders beliefs onto their cultural preferences, esp. if we don't fully understand it. 2. respect MG personal preferences, esp when M and G both+

Use the word wifey to refer to G. They've both said that they don't do anything in public that they're not comfortable with, and we know M wouldn't call G wifey if he had a problem w/it so why should we try to dictate what they do in their own relationship? 3. It can also be+

Considered heteronormative to perpetuate assigning hubby to only men and wifey to only women. If a man wants to identify as a wifey or a sis or an auntie or a mama, is it our place to judge them? Especially when it's in a joking way, as wifey is used in Thailand? 4. I'm part+

Of the LGBTQ+ community and I know gay men who don't like to be referred to w/feminine words and other men who do. Are you telling me you've never heard of a gay man call himself sister or mama? Or other gay men as she? W/the exception of trans ppl, gender tends to be a more+

Tongue in cheek concept in the LGBTQ+ community (in my own experience and ofc not for everyone), and for those ppl outside of it to tell us how we should challenge heteronormativity is to invalidate our right to express ourselves. +

5. My partner & I are women and we joke around and call eo hubby or hubs or sir. Am I calling my wife a man? No. I'm making a joke. Get over it krub. 6. If you think it's insulting to ascribe a traditionally feminine word to a man when he obvs doesn't mind it+

Then you need to check your internal misogyny. Because what you're saying is that it's insulting to be feminine. Or that it's wrong for a man to be feminine. And THAT is heteronormative. 7. If you didn't watch the video above, they said that hubby and wifey are used to denote+

Who is top and who is bottom. Not to ascribe masculine or feminine attributes or to misgender. Apparently puah and mia aren't even the words used for actual married ppl (which I've also read in my own research), so it seems to be a playful thing in the Thai gay community.+

8. Switch is definitely a thing, but so is only being top or bottom. It's a preference and many gay men only prefer the one. So to use hubby and wifey in the context of top or bottom isn't implying that ppl have to choose. Also, they could take turns being the wifey in that case+

9. Just because you don't like it, doesn't mean it's wrong. We need to account for language use (bc the meaning of words change over time), culture, and preference. Int. fans especially, we have no right to make any demands on other ppls culture or preferences.

10. if my misunderstanding of Thai gay culture is incorrect, then I apologize. This is what I've seen and read online. And if I'm wrong, then that only proves my point that we outsiders don't know enough to make our own judgements. For now, I take my cues from MG.