It’s not talked about enough but there’s an amount of unlearning that needs to happen after you’ve had a bad man and before you get a good one.

After you’ve been lied to it’s natural to develop trust issues. But once you get out of that situation you need to unlearn how to anticipate the bs. If you talk to a good man under the assumption that he’s lying, you’re setting yourself to lose the thing you’re trying to keep.

After you’ve been cheated on, it’s natural to have your confidence take a hit. But you have to unlearn those insecurities before you get into a new situation. Insecurity ruins trust. One of the worse things you can do is make the good man pay for the mistakes the bad man made.

After you’ve been abused it’s natural to develop defense mechanisms. But you have to unlearn being hard. The shield you put up trying to block out all pain is the same shield that will block out the love too. The bad man was harmful. Trust that the good man is protective.

After you’ve been used, it’s natural to be weary of what you give to a man in a relationship. But you have to unlearn that fear of giving your all. Trust that the good man is all about reciprocity. He’ll pour into you as you do him. It will all be appreciated. It’ll all be mutual

There’s a lot more I could keep going forever. Basically you have to keep the good things you learned to stop you from repeating the past and unlearn the things that are detrimental to you stepping into your future. You may not be starting from scratch but you have to start FRESH