as a former “rogd” child, it hurts to see rogd parents complaining and berating their child for their destructive behavior.

your child is not acting out of spite, they are acting out of distress.

stop it. get some help.

i’m still working on mending a broken relationship with my mother. but i still wish she’d try to accept my gender nonconformity.

my shaved head, baggy clothes, manly mannerisms, & love for women didn’t magically change when i desisted.

you do not need to fix your child; you need to fix your attitude towards your child.

you did not fuck up your child, but you do run that risk when you blame them for their distress

also when you blame them for your own distress. i’ve seen rogd parents joking about their child pushing them towards alcoholism.. as if it is something they are proud to admit

i know there aren’t many helpful resources out there. i get it. the political climate we are living in makes it really scary. for both the child and the parent. but this is vs. them mentality gets us nowhere.

most detransitioners are not quilified to give you parenting advice. we cannot reverse your child’s distress. we don’t have answers. we still have dysphoria.

you need to listen to your children, not the other way around.

you can’t just tell your children not to be dysphoric.

it doesn’t help to pretend that your child’s dysphoria isn’t real. if anything, that intensifies it.

every time i tried opening up to my mother about my dysphoria, she’d scoff. she’d tell me i was acting ridiculous. she’d say i just wanted to be different. it got us nowhere.

how are you reacting to your child’s distress? do you really think their feelings are fake?