It's not even June and this fucking nuclear-waste is already being put on my TL.

I'd have just blocked, but then I saw this individual attacking and demonizing the split attraction model, like every single exclusionist and identity-policing turd to come before them.

A blunt reminder that the imprecise (but expressing an *existing* attraction model and identity) term "bi lesbian" largely exists *because* of the rabid, organized demonization of split attracted people and the split attraction model.

It was made to replace the more precise "homoromantic bisexual" and "biromantic homosexual", both of which were mocked to an animalistic degree by exclusionists who targeted split attracted people in the community.

It's the same model of term as *ACE LESBIAN* (an asexual homoromantic person) and it'll always amaze me that ace lesbians have have had some limited acceptance, whereas bi lesbians are still seeing unhinged attacks, despite both terms defining *existing attraction patterns.*

It makes a dark, bitter kind of sense, though. Homoromantic asexuals aren't anywhere near as 'threatening' to the radfems at the root of the attacks on split attracted people, as compared to biromantic homosexual women, who have putative *attraction to men* in their model.

And if there's one surefire way of making a radfem go apoplectic enough that it's visible from space, its by bringing "attraction to men" anywhere in the same galaxy as "homosexual women."

Too bad that split-attracted people *genuinely exist* and aren't a theoretical model.

No matter how much radfems and the individuals taken in by them lie to hell and back, split attracted lesbians are not and will *never* be responsible for / the reason for why lesbians are targeted by entitled cishet men. That's victim-blaming shit at its finest.

That's ultimately what enrages me the most about all of this:

-- the utterly shameless and irrational victim-blaming aimed at lesbians and bisexuals that *dare* be born split attracted instead of having their sexual and romantic attraction models match

-- the miserable rush to erase split attracted people and basically *force* us to openly identify with only one part of our attraction model, so we're more palatable and easier to assimilate.

I'll never forget the huge harassment campaigns of a few years back-

-that specifically targeted women who identified as 'homoromantic heterosexual' and vice-versa and either forced them to lie to themselves and ID as "only lesbian" or drove them out of the community altogether. It was vicious and filled with nothing but rabid hatred.

This whole thing is very personal to me, because I'm split attracted myself (panromantic grey-ace) and it took fucking DECADES for me to figure myself out, in a community as hostile and unsupportive and lacking in information as wider cishet society.

(In some ways, even worse than wider cishet society. A cishet person will think me "weird and trying to be special." One of these turds will accuse me of everything from "erasing X identity" to "contributing to abuse" by merely existing as my split attracted self).

That's what makes me want to scream until I break.

Split attracted people of all possible orientations *exist.* We're not a theoretical model, we're here, we're in this fucking community, have been for decades and and have to put up with erasure and demonization every damn day.

There's something amazing about the original poster having the chutzpah to bleat about erasure while erasing erasing and shitting all over split attracted queer people.

We deserve infinitely better than a cavalcade of shitheads who will police us and accuse us of "comp het").

Isn't it both funny and telling how we're accused of "confusing young lesbians" by existing as ourselves, with absolutely no single shred of concern being given to those of us who had our search for identity harmed by accusations of "comp het? "

How many split attracted people, I wonder, spent a ludicrous amount of time denying or even failing to realize their nature as split attracted people, because they were taught to deny it as "comp het?"

It certainly happened to me and my panromantic nature.

I spent YEARS forcefully denying the part of myself that I would eventually come to recognize as a panromantic mode of attraction, because I was bombarded with the notion that it was compulsory heterosexuality and not given any alternative interpretation.

This combined with the *total lack of information* on the split attraction model and that it's possible to be a split attracted person, are the reasons it took almost 17 years for me to fully figure myself out,trying identity after identity that never really fit.

The impression I always got was that I and my happiness and self-discovery never mattered, because I dared not be "100% lesbian / bisexual / pansexual" (shout-out to ace-spec communities for being the most welcoming to split attracted people).

Because I dared be born as something complicated and difficult to assimilate into solely one group and called 'one of our own'. And the same goes for every single other split attracted person.